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Thursday, May 26, 2011

Not Cool, Daddy. Not Cool.

Hubs and I knew that there would be an adjustment period when Baby Bean starting going to her new daycare, but I thought she would transition a bit better than she has this past week.

Tuesday evening when I went to pick up Baby Bean the gal who helped us get BB enrolled was standing right inside the door as I walked in. We smiled and said hello, and then she asked if I had talked to my husband yet. When I told her I had not, she told me about how when he had walked in holding BB to drop her off that morning the floor was wet, and my husband slipped and fell. When Hubs got home that night, he also told me about it.

Wednesday evening when I went to pick up Baby Bean, the gal asked me again if I had talked to my husband yet that day. I told her I had not, and she then told me that he had shut his finger in his truck door that morning. When Hubs got home he told me the whole story.

The past couple days BB has been really melancholy on the way to daycare. Hubs asked her what was wrong, and both days he asked she replied, "I miss mama." Then once they got to the school, BB started to throw screaming and crying fits because she didn't want to be left in this new school where she doesn't know anyone or anything. I don't blame her. I have a hard enough time transitioning in new jobs, and I'm not 2 years old.

So Wednesday morning, BB started crying the second Hubs turned off the truck. To keep from having to deal with the fit for long, he tried to hurry and get her out of the truck. In his rush, he did not get his finger clear of the door before it closed. He then jerked it free and tore off a giant chunk of skin. Needless to say, he was no longer in the mood to coddle BB. He took her into her class, sat her on a chair, and walked right out, telling her goodbye as he walked away to get ice for his poor finger.

Last night Hubs told me that it was my turn to drop BB off at daycare, and that I should be the one to do it for the rest of the week because: 1) the way his luck has been going he is afraid he will die next time he drops her off; 2) she is all sad in the morning because she misses me; and 3) he wanted to see if she handled it better when I dropped her off. I told him I would drop her off Thursday morning, but couldn't Friday morning because I have acupuncture in the exact opposite direction.

This morning as I drove BB to school, I made sure to keep talking to her to make sure she wasn't going to get upset. She did great until we turned down the street to her daycare, and then she started whining and saying she didn't want to go to school. I kept talking to her and telling her she would get used to it, and it was okay to not like it at first. Again, she did great until I opened the door to her classroom, and then all crying, screaming hell broke loose.

Every time I tried to tell her goodbye, she would cry louder and harder. She would grab onto me and try to jump up into my arms. I felt HORRIBLE! I wanted to cry with her. I felt so bad that she was so upset. Her teacher told me that she had been doing this all week, and that she expects BB would do it for another week or so before she gets comfortable enough there. She said usually when Hubs leaves, BB goes over to a couch in the corner and sits there for a few minutes until she calms down, and then when she is ready, she will come over and play with the other kids.

I finally managed to get out of the classroom, and stopped to watch my daughter on the monitors in the lobby. Sure enough, BB was sitting on the couch, quiet and sad. It broke my heart.

I got to work half an hour late and texted my husband to tell him not to ask me to do that again, and that dropping her off was HIS job. I just couldn't handle feeling so bad about taking my daughter to daycare.

Not cool, daddy. Not cool!

9 Thoughts:

Heather said... [Reply to comment]

If she settles quickly then it's ok, she isnt spending her day miserable!

A couple of things that worked for my nephew who had the same problem (not saying you should do it of course):

1. Having the teacher take him into the office and let him open the daily mail for a minute (that sense of being special to someone there as the other kids didnt get to do it). That distraction meant SIL got out the door and by the time the mail was open, he was ready to play.

2. A special toy that they love, but only get to play with when they are in the car going to daycare and for a few minutes when they arrive (off limits at night or at home). It creates a desire to go to daycare if the toy is important enough!

And I know you struggled, but I totally think bad daddy has earned a couple more days off dropping her off lol.

Anonymous said... [Reply to comment]

Oh it's such a horrible feeling. But for starters, your poor Husband - what a week of injuries - OUCH!! Eight has been to 2 facilites in her years and we had this experience at both. I can tell you it will stop, they start to get the routine down and the tears and frantic mornings will stop. While they last is horrible though, and there is nothing you can do. Sorry girl. I hope Hubs keeps on taking her so you don't have to start your mornings that way. How sweet that she misses Momma! It's so rough growing up, so, so rough!

*Jess* said... [Reply to comment]

I'm so sorry :( I hope she gets used to it soon!

Alex said... [Reply to comment]

Oh that has to be so hard leaving your crying BB at daycare. I'm so sorry she's having a hard time transitioning, but I'm sure it will get better. Hang in there!

twondra said... [Reply to comment]

Oh, that would break my heart, too! The poor thing! I hope she gets adjusted soon. How awful! I hope hubby's luck turns around. :)

mckala7 said... [Reply to comment]

Yeah, that broke my heart when I had to switch daycare for my kids. Dustin took it ery hard. It was almost a month adjustment period. What I'm really NOT looking forward to is when Dustin goes to kindergarten... my intention is to take him to school every day his first week there, if not two weeks to make sure he at least has a sympathetic and maternal figure to lean on. I doubt his father will be as comforting as I'll try to be. So, I completely relate. :(

Potters said... [Reply to comment]

Not a fun thing to go through. I hope she gets the hang of it soon. It's always hard to adjust to big changes like that. I am jealous that she is going to that school. They have them here in UT but I can't afford it. :( I hope your hubby can make it through this in one piece.

Anonymous said... [Reply to comment]

We're still waiting on paperwork as all the school districts are being restructured so we don't even know which school she will be at this fall and this is so my fear.... BIG tantrums.

Leah said... [Reply to comment]

Oh my gosh! This must have been so hard. Scarlett cries right now when I leave for work, but I know it's only going to get worse once she can talk, and once she can say Mama. . . oh my! Then it will really be awful!

I hope BB adjusts soon and starts loving her new center. This Mom stuff is SO hard, and sometimes it feels like one big guilt trip!

 

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